Change
Everybody want’s change but nobody want's to change.
Change needs to happen on an energetic level which means it needs to happen on an emotional level.
Therefore It doesn't matter how hard you try to fix or manipulate the world outside of you, that only means you are focusing on the symptom not the cause.
You don't attract what you want you attract what you are. The universe responds to the energy you send out, you can’t fool it by pretending. In other words you need to be it and that means embracing it emotionally.
This is why change is so hard, people don't want to look within and feel their painful emotions such as shame, emptiness and sadness.
Why?
Cause it requires vulnerability and theres nothing scarier than that to most of us. Instead we jump back into our facade that we hold up for the world like an shield and keep pretending to be something we are not. (Like: emotionally stable, secure, confident, happy, etc.) And then spend our lives secretly hoping to be caught on our own bullshit.
We think that if we change our circumstances we will feel better but the problem is that nothing happens to us, there is no emotional change so we send out the same energy. You can have a very stable life and still be a mess inside. The emotional issue remains.
When you change your energy/emotional state you will not only feel better but you will stop attracting the same things/people in your life that aren't good for you.
How many of us haven't been dating the same person but in a different suit over and over?
Did you know that if you put two addicts at the same event those two will find each other and leave together at the end of the night. This is not a coincidence, its a match on an energetic level. Or, if you are for example a giver you will keep attracting takers cause that’s what you are a match to. (I will go deeper into this another time.)
If we are not brave enough to resolve our own emotional issues we wont achieve real change. Its not, ''When something happens I'll be happy'', its ''when Im happy things will happen.'' So the focus needs to be where it belongs, from the inside out - not the outside in. And when you make that shift, when you feel so whole that you don't need anything or anyone to change for you to feel gratitude, joy or happiness, you will no longer be a match to people or things that aren't serving you.
No money, person or thing can give you that, not even your own kids. It has to come from you.