Anxiety is self hate manifested

It all comes down to self love.
If you break it down anxiety is nothing more that manifested self hate. All that longterm stress in your body from violating your boundaries and going against your values slowly creates anxiety and depression.
Listen to you feelings and your body. Listen to your own inner voice and start taking it seriously. Cause if you don't then who will?
Start by defining what your core values are and see in which way you are not living by them. 
Start making decisions that is in lign with what you really value and believe and I promise you the pain will stop.
How often do you do things that you don't really want to do? Everytime you say yes to someone else and put them before you, you say no to yourself.
Who are you?
What do you want? 
What makes you happy and why?
What is important to you?
''There is no such thing as the light in the end of the tunnel. You must realize that you are the light.''

Conversation in the Womb – A Parable of Life After Delivery



 In a mother’s womb were two babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?”The other replied, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.”

“Nonsense” said the first. “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be?”

The second said, “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths. Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.”

The first replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! The umbilical cord supplies nutrition and everything we need. But the umbilical cord is so short. Life after delivery is to be logically excluded.”

The second insisted, “Well I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here. Maybe we won’t need this physical cord anymore.”

The first replied, “Nonsense. And moreover if there is life, then why has no one has ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery there is nothing but darkness and silence and oblivion. It takes us nowhere.”

“Well, I don’t know,” said the second, “but certainly we will meet Mother and she will take care of us.”

The first replied “Mother? You actually believe in Mother? That’s laughable. If Mother exists then where is She now?”

The second said, “She is all around us. We are surrounded by her. We are of Her. It is in Her that we live. Without Her this world would not and could not exist.”

Said the first: “Well I don’t see Her, so it is only logical that She doesn’t exist.”

To which the second replied, “Sometimes, when you’re in silence and you focus and you really listen, you can perceive Her presence, and you can hear Her loving voice, calling down from above.”

–  this lovely parable is from: your sacred self by Dr.  Wayne Dyer

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The need for love and approval

From now on I will be writing more in english.
Everything we do is to fill our most basic needs. Especially the need for love and approval. 
So what happens if we don't love and accept ourselves? If we deep down only think we are worthy when we achieve something?
''When I get that thing I'll be happy.'' 
We start searching for ways to fill it outside of ourselves. We go on instagram in the hunt for likes. The more followers the better. The less clothes the better. The facade becomes more important than authenticity and then we look at other peoples fake lives and retouched bodies and compare ourselves. Feeling bad if we can't keep up with something that doesn't even exist.
We spend money to buy things we don't need to impress other people. We reach for anything that will increase our status. We only buy that expensive bag to get a feeling of significance, if we already felt that way would we still feel the need to buy it?
We try to fill ourselves with other people to feel whole. We think If someone else loves us maybe that will save us from the job of doing it ourselves.
''When I get that persons love I'll be happy.''
Not only do we use other people to feel whole but we chose them for the wrong reasons. We become shallow, not only with ourselves but with the ones we keep close. Do they have the right look, the right clothes the right job? It's not: ''Will this person make me a better person?'' Its: ''Look what I've got everybody!''
I want you to start gathering information from the inside instead of the outside. That's the only place you're ever gonna find what you're looking for.
Try spending a whole day not being addicted to getting validation from the outside world.
When was the last time you were off instagram for a whole day?
When was the last time you were completeley alone with yourself?
When was the last time you were present?
''There is nothing outside of you that can help in any lasting way unless you are waiting for an organ. You can't buy, achieve or date serenity or peace of mind. It's an inside job.''
- Anne Lamott