What is love?
This really made me think… So much that I had to write it down to define it for myself. And heres my conclusion:
- Love is caring. Its showing empathy, being present, and listening. Its asking about whats wrong but also what right.
- Love is kind, not mean. A mistake made more than once is a CHOICE. No excuses.
- Love is warm, not cold, distant or avoidance.
- Love is present, Its taking the time to listen and hearing the other person.
- Love is trust. What I share with you, you will hold in confidence (and not use against me later.)
- Love is forgiveness, its being allowed to make a mistake, own it, apologize and make a mends.
- Love is reliability, its doing what you say you are going to do. And not just once but over and over.
- Love is healthy boundaries, its being clear about your boundaries, holding them and respecting them.
- And love is vulnerability, its showing up and letting yourself be seen. No vulnerability, no intimacy.
No matter how much someone professes their love to you, if they don't practice it, its not love. Ill finish this with my favorite quote from maya angelou:
‘’I dont trust people, who tell me: ‘’I love you’’ Who dont love themselves. - Beware of the naked man offering you a shirt.’’